Big Feelings Are Normal: Being Overwhelmed by Them Doesn't Have to Be
All children and teens experience big emotions. But for some, those feelings can feel overwhelming, uncontrollable, or impossible to manage. Meltdowns, outbursts, shutting down, explosive reactions to small things, or intense sadness and frustration: these are signs that a child or teen may need support building emotional regulation skills.
Emotional regulation is the ability to recognize, understand, and respond to emotions in flexible, healthy ways. It is a skill and like all skills, it can be learned and developed with the right support.
Therapy at Little Waves helps children and teens build a deeper understanding of their emotional world, develop practical tools for managing difficult feelings, and build the capacity to tolerate discomfort without being overwhelmed by it.
- Identifying and naming emotions
- Understanding what triggers emotional reactions
- Building a toolkit of calming and grounding strategies
- Tolerating distress without acting out or shutting down
- Managing explosive reactions and meltdowns
- Co-regulation skills for parents
- Emotional expression in safe and healthy ways
- Building resilience over time
Emotional regulation is not about suppressing feelings. It is about developing the capacity to feel them without being controlled by them and responding in ways that align with who you want to be.
Tools for Building Emotional Regulation
Every child is different. Tap an approach below to see how it fits into the work, Lianne combines these to build a plan that fits the individual.
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
DBT skills: including mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness: are particularly effective for building emotional regulation in teens.
Support for big emotions starts here
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FAQCommon Questions About Emotional Regulation
What is emotional regulation?
Emotional regulation is the ability to understand, manage, and respond to emotions in a healthy way. It doesn't mean suppressing feelings, it means being able to experience big emotions without being overwhelmed by them or acting in ways that cause harm.
What are signs that a child struggles with emotional regulation?
Signs include intense meltdowns, explosive anger, rapid mood shifts, difficulty calming down after upset, frequent crying, or shutting down completely. These are all signs that a child's nervous system needs more support.
What therapy approaches are used for emotional regulation?
DBT skills training, CBT, mindfulness-based approaches, and play therapy are all used. At Little Waves, we match the approach to the child, what works for a 7-year-old looks different than what works for a 16-year-old.
Can parents help with their child's emotional regulation at home?
Absolutely. Parent coaching is often part of our work. When caregivers learn how to co-regulate and respond effectively during emotional moments, it makes a significant difference in how quickly children develop their own skills.