When a Child or Teen Doesn't Believe in Themselves
Low self-esteem can quietly shape how a child or teen experiences every part of their life: how they approach challenges, how they treat themselves after a mistake, how they relate to their peers, and whether they feel worthy of good things.
Signs can include a harsh inner critic, giving up easily, avoiding new things out of fear of failure, comparing themselves unfavourably to others, difficulty accepting compliments, or consistently saying 'I'm not good at anything.'
Therapy at Little Waves creates a space where children and teens can begin to examine these beliefs, understand where they come from, and build a more accurate and compassionate view of themselves. The goal is not false positivity: it is helping young people see themselves clearly, without the distortion of self-criticism.
- Identifying and challenging negative self-talk
- Building awareness of genuine strengths and accomplishments
- Developing a more compassionate inner voice
- Managing perfectionism and fear of failure
- Resilience after setbacks and mistakes
- Social confidence and assertiveness
- Separating self-worth from performance or achievement
How a child sees themselves shapes everything. Therapy is a space where those beliefs can be gently examined, challenged, and rebuilt on a more accurate and kind foundation.
Approaches That Build Self-Esteem
Every child is different. Tap an approach below to see how it fits into the work, Lianne combines these to build a plan that fits the individual.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Identifies the negative thought patterns that fuel low self-esteem and helps children and teens develop more balanced, realistic ways of seeing themselves and the world around them.
Build the foundation for lasting confidence
Every journey starts with a first step. Reach out and we'll find the right path forward for your child or teen, together.
66 Centre St, Thornhill, ON · In-person & virtual sessions available
FAQCommon Questions About Self-Esteem
What are signs of low self-esteem in children and teens?
Signs include frequent self-criticism ('I'm so stupid', 'nobody likes me'), fear of trying new things, giving up easily, needing excessive reassurance, social withdrawal, or comparing themselves negatively to peers.
Can therapy really help improve self-esteem?
Yes. Therapy helps children and teens identify the root of their negative self-beliefs, challenge distorted thinking, and build a more accurate, compassionate self-view. This work takes time but creates lasting change.
What is the connection between self-esteem and anxiety?
Low self-esteem and anxiety often reinforce each other. A child who doubts themselves is more likely to avoid challenges, which prevents them from building confidence and success experiences. Therapy addresses both together.
At what age can children start self-esteem work in therapy?
We work with children as young as 7. The approach is adapted to the child's developmental level, younger children may use stories, play, and creative activities, while teens engage in more direct cognitive and values-based work.